Who am I?

 I have struggled with that question for most of my life, yes I knew my name and where I came from but I strugled to find my identity me and what  makes me the person that I am.  As a teenager i went through many stages not knowing where i belonged my attitude changed a couple of times, the way I dressed changed as well the type of people i hanged around with, I would be christian the one month then I would be non- religiouse the other.

As I grew older I got to understand that the reason why it was taking me to long to find who I am was because I wanted the person that I discover to be loved by everyone therefore I was changing who I am in the process of finding me so that people can accept me. I learned that being me is not going to be accepted by many people and that in life you will always get people who don't accept you for who you are no matter what kind of person you became.

But when you get to know who you are it is very rewarding bacause your life changes your interests and everything else just becames clear you get to know where you are going in life. You can never get direction in life if you dont know who you are. So friends if you dont know who you are go out there and search for you.

Friendships

We never really understand the importance of friendship until we in situations were we needs friends around us. I did'nt until my father passed away and the first thing that came to mind was my friends name and I called her at 2 in the morning, I needed a shoulder to cry on an she was that now believe me if she wasn't a real friend she wouldnt have unswered that call and if she did she wouldnt have listened to me cry on the phone for two hours when she had a very important test that morning but she did.

For me I have a lot of friends am very good with people that is in my nature and I find that in  my circle of friends am the one that everybody shares with when they need help or when they just want to talk. We always take our friends for granted we dont share things with them because we are so scared of being judged or talked about yes am not denying the fact that in life that happens and it its very difficult to share with someone something that is very personal to you because we seen people who call themselves friends back stab each other. When you meet a real friend you know because that person will alway be there for you and they will protect you and defend you againsts other people now know that when you get someone like that, its a friend to keep. Fear doesnt do anything accept hold you back in life, you need to take chances in order see whats  out there same with friends you start by sharing something small and see how it goes from there. Good luck!!!! 

men in our lives

In a book written by Steve Harvey called Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man it says that man are designed to be protective that it is in their natural being which makes me wonder what went wrong to those man who dont father their children. A man who is able to leave his pegnant spouse wanting nothing to do with the child, what happened to their protective nature dont they think about who will protect their child in the faces of life.

Our grandfathers took care of their families they never abadoned their children and yes they extra marital activities but their families were always top priority. What kind of man calls himself one if he fathers a child he has never seen.

Now I on the other hand had a great father he was there for me all my life yes we had our fights but I got on with him more than I did with my mother I was what you call a daddys girl. But in my life I have seen children who grow up without fathers an what influence that has on their upbringing especially boys, yes some became better people but some just dont know how tobe man because they never been taught what makes a man. The single mothers try their best to teach their children but I belive that everey child needs a man in their lives thats just it.