marikana memorial service

The momerial service that was held in grahamstown to pray for those people who lost their lives in the marikana massacre last month. People from all walks of life were invited and the were guest speakers.It was a great ceremony that ended with a match to the nearest police station to lit candles and pray.

owning my life

I have decided to take control of my life and make the necessary changes that will benefit me in terms of health. I have also been one of those people that were always looking for quick fixes diets that never work or i would start gym and end up not going and now as am growing older I realize that I might be facing some healt isssues like diabetes and that its up to me to make sure that I live a healthy lifestyle. Temptations have always been too hard me to resist and thats why I always fell back. I am going to start writting about my journey and I am hoping that this time I stay on it NO quick fix for just the good old way with physical fitness.

relationships

i was once again sitting in the corner of my world and i thought of all the relationships that i have lost and the ones i have made and what impact they had in my life. About year ago i lost my father he was my everything my best friend, my father, my pillar of sthrenght and i had always felt the empty space in my heart were he should have been and just a few months ago my sister gave birth to twins beautiful boys and just then i thought to myself is this gods way of filling that empty space because they resemble my dad and they remind me so much of him. I now know that those children were brought into this world for something they have brought my family together. I have lost friends in life we all went separate ways but i have also kept alot of friends in the process but when looking at all those friends that i have lost i wonder if i had not cut them loose would i have turned out like them because most of the have dropped out of school and are drinking and smoking while some of them are teenage mothers. In my life i only keep friends that are positive and strive for a better future. I have one friend she is a teenage mother to 2 children but what i like about her is that even though she made those mistakes in her life she didnt give up she is still going strong and wants a better future for her children. Everytime am about to talk about this girl i just laugh she is a friend i met in primary i was i new in the school and we lived in the same community and traveled in the same bus, my mother, her mother and other people always asked me how do you and her get  along ebcause we were so different she was out there loved the party life and boys were else i was more indoors but we got along so much you know she had her friends but i was that friend that she could come to with problems and tell me how she felt and what was going on in her life. Her mother loved the fact that i was friends with her beacouse in her mind i think she thought i could change her and make her become like me but we enjoyed our differences and they complimented our relationship she is still the same old and am also still the same but now since i have growned i wish i had been able to change her because now she has dropped out of school and is staying with a boyfriend i miss her though but she is hard to keep intouch with she changes her numbers all the time. In my journey i have met alot of wonderful people and i have kept alot of great friends in the process i have now what i call best friends they have been with me through the hardest times of my life and i can say i am truly blessed to have them

homosexuals

I hate the negativity that people have against homosexuals yesterday i was having a chat with my usuals guy friends and we talking about gay people and the things they said actually shocked me. I strongly believe that gay people are born that way and that they didnt choose to be gay, yes long ago society viewed people who were gay as posessed by the devil because they had no infornation about it and most people were  ashamed of coming out. one of the guys said to me that gay people are the first people that going to be burned when its time for judgement day, what made me laugh is the fact that when i asked him he said that its in the bible i have been reading the bible and i havent seen that. Just because you were born straight and u attracted to the opposite sex does not mean you have not sinned. What gives us straight people to judge those people and decide their fate who are we to punish those people and if we read the bible so much did we miss that part that says when one does bad to you leave them up to god to punish. Whn are we going to change our mindsets, what will it take for us to accept these people into society. I love my gay and lesbian friends and am proud of being part of such people because they are such beautiful people with beautiful hearts i8f one just gets to know them better.

forgive and forget

This morning i was just thinking is the such thing as "forgive and forget". I remember thats what Nelson Mandela said at the end of apartheid , its easy for me to do that because i did not experiance it how about those people who were  there the ones that lost their lives in the hands of the white men, the ones who spent most their lives in jail fighting for their freedom, the ones who lost family members how do they forget those memories those years of their lives wasted the missing presence of their loved ones. The is only one answer for me to that they cannot forget but they can forgive because those are not memories one can easily forget. I am not aginst the white man i believe that South Africa is moving forward and the are less and less white people who still think that way but now i fear that the is reverse apartheid were black people are teaching their children to hate the white men where our leaders are promoting it with the likes of people like Malema in parliament and i just wonder what that will do for our country. I personaly believe that most of the people that put our people through that pain most of them have died and died with their since and the only person we should let punish them is God.

women cries

Last weekend i was having a talk with one of my close cousins and i was talking to her about her relationship with her boyfrieind, i just wanted to get to understand why a women would stay in a relationship for years while she is being physically and mentally abused and she told me its becouse of love and that she believes that her partner was doing that because he loved her and he was looking out for her. She has been in this kind of relationship for almost five years now. I got so upset that the are women who think they deserve what these man do to them and mostly blame themselves for it. What kind of love is that that makes you cry and makes you loose your self esteem, i dont understand how a person who claims to love you can say such horrible things to you. how do we change the mindset of those women how do we get them out of those relationships because some of them have never been in relationships were they are not beaten and sweared at. I have had this experiance with my causin who comes crying to me and then when the pain from all those beatings has healed she goes back to him and claim that he says it was a mistake he didnt mean it he is so sorry, i mean how many times does he have to beat her until it stops being a mistake until he is not sorry anymore. HOW DO WE HELP THOSE WOMEN

http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/Politics/I-would-die-defending-whites-Malema-20120324