Monday, 21 May 2012

women cries


Last weekend i was having a talk with one of my close cousins and i was talking to her about her relationship with her boyfrieind, i just wanted to get to understand why a women would stay in a relationship for years while she is being physically and mentally abused and she told me its becouse of love and that she believes that her partner was doing that because he loved her and he was looking out for her. She has been in this kind of relationship for almost five years now. I got so upset that the are women who think they deserve what these man do to them and mostly blame themselves for it. What kind of love is that that makes you cry and makes you loose your self esteem, i dont understand how a person who claims to love you can say such horrible things to you. how do we change the mindset of those women how do we get them out of those relationships because some of them have never been in relationships were they are not beaten and sweared at. I have had this experiance with my causin who comes crying to me and then when the pain from all those beatings has healed she goes back to him and claim that he says it was a mistake he didnt mean it he is so sorry, i mean how many times does he have to beat her until it stops being a mistake until he is not sorry anymore. HOW DO WE HELP THOSE WOMEN

2 comments:

blackguitar said...

it's really sad but it's the reality that we are facing,we claim to love a person that mistreats us and believe that the genuinely loves us...we I think it's becuase we(they) have not been with someone who truly loves them for real and even when they do find that person they wil find it so hard to stay with them bevuase they are used to being treated like crap.

witty said...

Women who tolerate men who phyiscally and verbally abuse them really pains me, especially in the day of age we live in as women now are independent,educated and beautiful.Naturally as people we learn each other's behave's,we know what you like and what you don't like,we know what you will tolerate and what you won't tolerate,we also know how to bend your arm! Men who abused their partners know all of these and they use the word LOVE as an excuse for what they do. A woman in a relationship like that needs to get out,yes it isn't easy because you love this man and you want to be with him but think about this some day he will beat you to the point that you die,rather help him to get help because he must have issuses such as insecurities about himself and mayb his doing what he saw his dad doing when he was a child!